Answer by A Quora admin:
Your problem is your mindset, not your age or position in life. Many of the other people who have answered this question ably have shown that there is more than enough time for you create a fulfilling life for yourself, and to achieve what you want to achieve. It's likely that you've heard advice in this vein before.
You have to shake the feeling that you've wasted a lot of time, and that the dream of a fulfilling life is receding ever-further out of your grasp. If you don't shake that feeling, you will be unable to take the actions necessary to improve your life, because you won't have faith that it's possible to attain real satisfaction with your life. Achieving your dreams takes work. It's hard to work effectively at what you believe to be impossible. Remember how Milo achieves the impossible in The Phantom Tollbooth because he didn't know it was impossible? There are some real truths in kids' books.
Anyway, changing your mindset is easier said than done. Here are some concrete steps that may help get you in the frame of mind to take advantage of what you have to offer. The idea is to get yourself in a place where you will (1) trust your instincts, and (2) become more comfortable taking calculated risks.
- Do something disruptive to cleanse your life-palate. The more drastic the better, but follow your instincts and personality in choosing a palate cleanser. You could, for example: work or volunteer on a political campaign, take an art class at a community college, start frequenting a neighborhood bar, restaurant or coffee shop with a clientele very different from yourself, travel someplace interesting and engage with the local culture (organic farming and other volun-tourism can be affordable ways to do this), or start playing pick-up basketball at your local gym. The goal is to get physically and emotionally away from your comfort zone and find that you can survive and thrive someplace new.
- Clean out your closet. In getting rid of stuff you no longer need, and rediscovering stuff you haven't seen in a while, you'll be reminded of who you are, what you've done, and what matters to you.
- Clean out your circle of acquaintances. Reduce ties to and reliance on friends, family, acquaintances and coworkers that make you feel bad about yourself, or who are toxic personalities. If feasible, cut them out altogether.
- Revisit your favorite books, movies, and music, and think about why it is that you like them. This will not only remind you of who you are, but it will make you happy!
- Take time every week to contact the people in your life who you care most about and make you feel the happiest and most yourself.
- Take any exercise and healthy eating regime you have, and improve on it. A healthy body makes for a healthy mind and more confidence.
- Find a system for reducing stress. This may include yoga, aromatherapy, meditation, life coaching, therapy, keeping a traditional or gratitude journal, or many other things, depending on your personality and needs.