I am in my late 20s and feel I have wasted a lot of time. Is it too late for me to achieve something worthwhile?

Answer by A Quora admin:

It is never too late, and you are right on track.

Most intentional success is accomplished in a relatively short period of time, and rarely in your twenties.

Early success is unintentional success. Professional athletes, models, etc, must be born with the right DNA and support system. Demographics and upbringing are also key. These are gifts. Michael Jackson was successful practically before he could walk. He was truly gifted.

With time and age, our distance from where we began widens, and the consequences of how we spend our time begins to outweigh our initial advantages and disadvantages. And by choosing a goal or a destination, we can decide for ourselves to put in the work that will get us there.

Only intentional success is an achievement, for all anyone can intentionally do is be intentionally successful.

"If you're born with a gift, to behave like it's an achievement is not right."
— Woody Allen

For those gifted enough to experience early unintentional success, at some point they must become intentional or they are at risk of losing it all. What they have is a head start. LeBron James was gifted. But at some point he decided to take basketball seriously. His success is the result of what he intentionally did with his unintentionally acquired gifts. To align your intentions with your gifts is a great formula for the greatest potential success.

Will you sit around and wait for unintentional success? Will you leverage your unintentionally acquired talents to achieve your wish? Or will you overcome everything that held you back and obtain the consequences you desired? These are the stories of our lives.

To be intentionally successful, consider this: New careers can be built in less than a decade, and business ventures maybe less than 5 years. Books or software can be written in months. New relationships can happen in an instant. If you are an artist or an actor, it may take many tries, but it only takes one big hit.

However, on the other hand, becoming exceptional at anything is hard. Succeeding when you have no answers is hard. Not having what it takes is hard. For these problems, you won't know success until you get there, and that is if you ever get there.

Fighting the chance that something is impossible is hard.

The solution? Focus on what it is you love and truly wish for. If you love it enough, it will make you forget how old you are or how long you've been trying. Failure is a prerequisite for success. Keep at it until you have it, knowing the journey is the best part.

If you're not having fun getting there, you will never have fun, trust me. And if you're having fun, then it's a good life.

In the end, it shouldn't matter whether you get there or not. There is no light at the end of the tunnel, not because there isn't any light, but because you shouldn't be in any tunnel to begin with. Have goals, work hard, but be where it is bright.

A little anxiety at 27 is healthy though and also quite common. It tends to get worse, but you just have to forget how old you are (I have been told this is easier for Men). Try this:

  1. Pretend you are 60 for a minute, then pretend to be a 60 year old pretending to be 55. Would anyone tell the difference, or even care?
  2. Now return to 27 and secretly pretend you are 22.
  3. Now spend the next 5 years the way you envisioned you would have, so that you can be the 27 year old you always imagined you would be.
  4. If you succeed, you are probably ahead of yourself, even at 32. If you fail, you are just like everyone else who failed until 32 but eventually succeeds by 37. If you fail again, you are just like everyone else that failed until 37 but succeeds by 42. Eventually by the time you retire, you will catch up with yourself, or settle in a good place.

You just gained 5 years of your life back. You are welcome. Honestly, no one cares about your age and neither should you. Regretting your past or comparing yourself to others is a complete waste. You could die tomorrow or live to be 100. Count your blessings and be on your merry way!

"A guy will say, 'Well, I make my luck.' And the same guy walks down the street and a piano that's been hoisted drops on his head. The truth of the matter is your life is very much out of your control."
— Woody Allen

Spend time doing what you love with the people you love, and live life intentionally.

Let your journey be the success in your life. That is the best solution. That is the only solution.

Good luck.

I am in my late 20s and feel I have wasted a lot of time. Is it too late for me to achieve something worthwhile?

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