Answer by A Quora admin:
Unfortunately for 'real' people, the media is obsessed with the tiny minority who succeed early and display this very publicly.
This is then amplified by the high profile 'subject', for PR purposes, to perpetuate their success.
Justin Bieber, Michael Jackson, Britney Spears, River Phoenix, Justin Timberlake, Bill Gates, Jimi Hendrix, Steve Jobs, James Dean, Richard Branson, Whitney Houston, One Direction, Amy Winehouse, Mark Zuckerburg. Need I go on.
Notice a trend in there somewhere?
You are probably being influenced, (like all of us), in how you assess your own progress, compared to these people. It can be a dangerous game to play.
It takes a tremendous amount of luck, as well as talent, to get into the right position at the right time. Not many people who make it will tell you that, often preferring to put it down to their hard work. That is because they believe that this is the case, not because they are intentionally misleading you. I know that because, to an extent, I've done it.
You also may not have considered that even if you were on the list of young successes. It is very hard to follow that early success later in life. Your expectations of yourself are higher and based on that youthful virtual reality you experienced once, you can never improve on your past.
That can be a tough pill to swallow and despite all the money in the world, many struggle with that.
Look at any list of young successes from just 10 years ago and count the number who have disappeared, died or been in rehab. Lots.
Half the list of super successful people above are dead for a start off.
This is not an excuse for you to give up trying however.
Try to think of life as a long road journey.
The journey can be as exciting or as boring as you choose to make it.
Wherever you are on the journey, there are new experiences, as long as you welcome them and seek them out. Some you can plan in advance.
Often, you need to get out of the car to experience them. Otherwise, you will see them flash past the window and feel like it is too late to stop.
- Do something every day which contributes to your progress on the journey and always be learning and experiencing new things.
- Don't put off experiences which can be done today by getting out of the car, for a tomorrow which may never arrive.
- Build a vision of where you want to get to in 1, 5 and 10 years and then think about the steps you need to complete in the next 30 days to move towards it, but don't set deadlines that are too harsh. Do the first step on the list today.
- Like any long journey, you will hit diversions, obstacles, traffic lights, speed bumps, closed roads and all manner of other problems. There will be crashes – you might be involved in them. Like any long road journey, if you want to get the destination enough, you won't turn back, you will reroute. The car might break down or need repairing. Just accept it will happen now, and carry on.
Most importantly, don't wait for all the traffic lights between your house and your destination, to turn green at the same time, before you set off.
Get in the car and start driving.
If that doesn't work, read this update from a 27 year old b3ta contributor instead.